I’m just going to say it. The Ghost of Dr Patrick has to go!


Oh shit. This post is going to be unpopular.

Now before all you #Offspring and #TeamPatrick fanatics get on my case for what may seem like a heartless headline, please know I, too, am in your crew.

I, too, feel like a member of the Proudman family, such is my real love for this show, cast, characters and writing. Oh, the glorious writing!

I, too, felt my heart crumble into a million pieces when Dr Patrick died, last year. I bawled like a little baby, I wept like he was a real person. Irrational? Maybe. But we of the Offspring die-hard-fan-gang just feel all the feels with the show. ALL THE FEELS.

(You can read all about my greatest TV mourning moment here.)

And I, too, was relieved to hear that Dr Patrick would return as a figment of Nina’s wild imagination. Because then, he didn’t actually die! We actually still get to see our favourite real-life TV couple be in love and lust and Dr Patrick didn’t actually die!

So Season 5 is finally here and Dr Patrick is Nina’s ghost. And call it a delayed reaction, but it’s finally hit me that Dr Patrick and Nina will never be together again. Because he did actually die.

At first, I loved the Ghost of Dr Patrick and thought the scenes with him and Nina were beautiful and very necessary. Of course they were – Nina lost her great love. We She needed to mourn him. He needed to be everywhere.

But Wednesday’s episode showed that he still really was everywhere. The Ghost of Dr Patrick found himself in Nina’s bed during her first casual sex encounter and that’s when I kind of went… Oh God. He’s back.

The thing is, I know it’s only been six months since he died (here I am carrying on like he’s real again) and I know his constant reappearance in her imagination would probably happen in real life, for a very long time. Someone’s great love just can’t die and disappear from their life, their thoughts or their reality.

Love doesn’t die with a person.


Offspring, despite the fact that Dr Patrick died last year (which perhaps I haven’t yet forgiven the writers for. Soz) has always been my feel good while still pulling at my heart-strings show. It takes me to a place where I laugh and cry and laugh again because hilarious. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… it’s my favourite ever television show and I love it greatly.


Dr Patrick seems to be popping up at the moments we used to enjoy on Offspring. Like Billy and Zara’s engagement. And Nina’s hilarious one-night-stand.

And even writing this, I know that in reality… these are the moments he would pop up. At other people’s happy times. At monumental occasions (first sex in many months).

But this is where I want it to be a show. I don’t want him to not exist anymore (because that wouldn’t be at all realistic. And it wouldn’t be Nina). I just don’t want to feel sad when I want to feel happy. And I don’t expect to feel happy all the time in Offspring. I just don’t want to be constantly reminded of the sadness I feel that Nina and Zoe are without Dr Patrick when it’s my feel good place.

Do you think The Ghost of Dr Patrick’s appearances are popping up at the most inopportune times? Or am I being a heartless cow?

All comments read, appreciated and responded to. So thank you x
  • Maine

    I think I 5% agree with you. Since Patrick has played such an integral part in Nina’s life, it is completely necessary for the writers to continue this whole charade of Patrick following her in every move she makes. Sure, he could appear less often but it’d be a tiny bit choppy if he were to just be completely written out of the whole story.

    In my opinion, his ghost truly encapsulates the whole idea of the 5 stages of grief. The recent episode seems like Nina is on the third stage – bargaining (hey, maybe we’ll get to see her arrive at the final stage of acceptance and that’s where Patrick will be truly gone?). I also think that Patrick’s ghost creates such an obstacle for Nina that allows her character to grow.

    You also said, “I just don’t want to feel sad when I want to feel happy. And I don’t expect to feel happy all the time in Offspring.” – that’s what’s so great about this show! Its ability to manipulate emotions in so many ways! It needs to “burst the urst” in some way to balance happiness / sadness. Think of it this way: you are slowly stretching a rubber band. If you keep pulling, it will eventually snap. This whole situation is kind of like that in the metaphorical sense that everything that happens will be reciprocated in one form or another. We will always be in a state of great happiness at one stage of our lives and at the next, we will eventually face something that’s the opposite.

    Maybe I’m just thinking too much (quote Leo, “you should stop thinking less”) and too deeply with the whole story line but I mean, I feel that Offspring touches on so many social aspects and teaches us so many great lessons about life. I guess that’s why I’m so analytical about it? :

    And hey, to be honest, I never even thought about seeing Patrick this regularly because I thought about the logic of casting: Le Neves takes a chance to further his career by letting Offspring go, which forces the writers to write him out. And presumably, he would definitely embark on a new show/movie or whatnot and won’t have much time to even be a “guest” in the show. Anyway, that’s besides the point… hahaha!

    Hmmm… Those are just my thoughts…

    • http://www.mammasvida.com.au/ Kat Caravella – Mamma’s Vida

      Hi Maine, thank you for your thoughtful comment, and I think you raise some excellent points.
      Like I mentioned in my post, I think it’s totally realistic that Patrick is ever-present in Nina’s thoughts – but I think from a viewers perspective watching a fictional show, I would prefer him appear less…or at different moments (not go completely, despite the title of my post. I explain it later). I just think he is popping up at moments we should continue to smile and his image turns a really funny situation into something sad and dark… Again, just at times, not always.
      Maybe we should all stop thinking about it less! Ha ha. But like you said – that’s why we all love this show.

  • Lana (Sharpest Pencil)

    The one thing that I love most about Offspring is it’s adherance to reality. I think if you’ve ever lost someone close to you, you know they don’t just leave, they are there in all the moments that Patrick comes to Nina. Also Offspring can do no wrong xxxxxx

    • http://www.mammasvida.com.au/ Kat Caravella – Mamma’s Vida

      Oh Lana – I knew you (being a senior member of the Offspring-die-hard-fan-gang) would have an opinion on this and I completely agree with you… but don’t (if you know what I mean)

      I think what we are seeing (Patrick being everywhere with Nina) is extremely realistic…And I get that. But ultimately, despite the fact that we are so emotionally invested in these characters like they are real, it is still a ‘show’ and sometimes I want less dark and more light… Of course I still think its necessary he pops up, maybe not less, but at different times, so we can truly enjoy the funny/awkward moments we love about Offspring without a reminder of his death… Despite how realistic it may be…

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