Everyone that reads this blog knows that I really hated the year 2014. It was a shit year and lots of shit things happened in the world and in our lives but lets not harp on about that shit year because 2014 will always remain a shit year and nothing will ever change that.
So with that said my husband and I made a promise to ourselves that we would try our very best to make sure 2015 was as positive a year as possible. You know, the same old kind of happy, soppy stuff. The cliche kind, like love your hardest, smile your biggest, eliminate things (or people) that bring you down and try to be the best person you can on the inside and your outside will reflect that.
And blah blah blah.
Back to 2015.
So you know, so far this year has been a little… lets just say… weird. And while it would be wrong for me to elaborate because I’m just not that kind of over-sharer, things haven’t been going as smoothly as we would have hoped.
But hey! Bumps in the road seem to be our thing. What’s a road, after all, if it isn’t bumpy?
Who even wants a smooth, perfect road that you can cruise right down, at the perfect speed, with the perfect edges and perfect corners and you know, everything is just so damn perfect?
Oh wait. I wouldn’t mind a bit of perfection. Just for a while! Shame perfection is a total myth (I’m looking at you, perfection pretenders)
So, bumps. Bumps in the road got me thinking a little this morning and as I try my very best to be positive despite all the freakin’ bumps and humps I realised sometimes we need things, like go-to things, to give us a little help in the cheer-up-Charlie department.
Wow, this post is frustratingly turning a little self-help-esque. But we all have smile-makers, no?
Okay, maybe at this point some of you reading don’t have a smile in you now. I’ve been there. Smiling was extraordinarily difficult during periods of sadness in my life and I know for others, maybe a smile simply feels impossible, for all kinds of reasons I can’t understand and I won’t pretend to. *hugs*
But if you can, think of something, just one thing, that can make you smile. And think about it lots. When the roads are bumpy, and even when the roads are smooth.
That’s what I do when things are a little off. I think about my go-to smile makers. And I want to share them with you.
Goes without saying, right? How can our children not make us smile? There is not a day my girls don’t make me laugh my hardest with things they do and say. Kids are the best – so innocent (mostly) so pure (sorta) and always learning (which is extremely hilarious). The discoveries my kids make on the daily are total smile-makers. The ‘I LOVE YOUS’ are smile-makers. Even the ‘YOU’RE NOT MY FRIEND! is a smile-maker.
Look. Don’t get me wrong. Mamma gets cross too and my kids can just as swiftly wipe the smile off my face. But there is never a day that goes by without a smile made by my children. Not a single day.
My partner in
My love-giver. My rock. My own personal comedian (who doesn’t love a funny man? A total smile-maker). My everything, together with my kids. I totally heart him.
Even when things have been really sad and food was just not physically able to be ingested, I could always drink coffee. And even when I physically could not smile on the outside, when I took a sip of a good, strong, cappuccino, I was smiling on the inside.
I have an incredible immediate and extended family. Adore. Love. My heart.
Good. Real. Friends.
There’s a saying that goes something like you can count your real friends on one hand. I reckon it’s probably on the money. There are friendships that just last the distance. Friendships that aren’t hard work because they just work. And there are friendships that probably last too long because they probably were never friendships to begin with.
I am lucky. I have that hand. And maybe a few more than one hand. But they are good, real friends. Friends I know will always have my back. And I have theirs. It’s a total sisterhood and it’s a total smile-maker.
So here I am. Writing for a smile.
Certain foods and drinks
Not just any food and certainly not the Indian delivery we got last night because that totally removed any smile that was found on my face and kept it gone for the rest of the night #woeful.
But there are certain foods and drinks that are total smile-makers. Deli meats, smelly cheese, oysters, good pizza, fresh, crusty bread dipped in salted extra virgin olive oil, Lychee daiquiris, a good red wine or a crispy, cold Pinot Grigio.
Bring on the
drunk smile, baby.
I’m ending my list of smile-makers with this one because with true contentment, the feeling of a smile is truly special. Whenever the road is bumpy, whenever things just don’t seem to go right, I know I am still content with all the things that are really – and actually – important.
I’m content because I know I have my loves and my health and my family and I know that sounds almost horribly unoriginal but at the end of it all, it’s what counts. Right? It’s not what we look like and it’s not what we have in the material sense because they don’t define us as people.
Of course, nice things are cool to have. That’s why we work for them. And a good hairdresser and tight bum wouldn’t go astray and we work for those things too because sometimes these things are total, if temporary, smile-makers.
But contentment on the inside when the smiles aren’t easy to find is the best kind of go-to smile maker of all. Because they are all your go-to smile makers wrapped into one.
What are your go-to smile makers?All comments read, appreciated and responded to. So thank you x